​How Do You Love Someone Who Abuses You?

My first thought is to give them a fist in the face – that’s the old Kenny reacting; but Jesus says turn the other cheek.

So how do you sort that out?

I’ve struggled with this for a long time, but love does what is truly best for others without regard for itself.

The truth is if you truly love someone who is abusing you, you don’t want them to act abusively to anyone, and you will not enable them or help them to abuse anyone including yourself.

So, if you love them, you do what’s best for them. You confront them with truth. And if nothing you can do will stop them; you get out of there. You walk away.

Love does not allow abuse or even the suggestion of abuse. If love can’t stop the abuse, love won’t participate in any way whatsoever.

There are domestic violence victim shelters in every state, county, city. There are help lines to call and text. The National Domestic Abuse Hotline number is 1-800-799-7233:

If someone you love is abusing you, then you’re not loving them by allowing it. It’s not about loving yourself; it’s about loving them enough to end it – not through anger or violence -- but loving them enough to walk away, get away, get out.

Love is its own shield.

Proverbs 22:24-25

Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.

Laus Deo,

Kenny