How to love selfish people

We shouldn’t be in the business of policing everyone else’s decisions. The Bible tells us to get the log out of our own eye before we try to help someone remove the splinter from their eye. That said, loving someone who makes a habit of being selfish or is extremely selfish does mean challenging them to change for their own sake. Pretending it’s ok for someone to continue to abuse you or take advantage of you is not loving them. Love speaks truth. Not every truth is worth defending, but when one is worth defending, we must either stand for the truth or chose not to love the other person. Hope this makes sense. Matthew 7:3-5 Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.