What Does A Woman Need?

A woman's greatest need is for security. A woman feels most secure when she is with a Husband that is sensitive. In the movie Beauty and the Beast, when the Beast became sensitive he won Bell's heart! Heck, he won mine too! Strong but sensitive!

A woman wants a man to learn what is important to her. She doesn’t have to nag him or drop hints. His job is to serve his wife. He identifies what she needs and he makes sure she gets it. A sacrificial husband will sacrifice a hobby or interest to show that nothing in life is as important as his wife. That is what gives her security. She also needs nonsexual affection. Holding hands, hugging, kissing each other and being gentle without expecting it to lead somewhere. Men, if you don’t feel like doing that it doesn’t matter you need to change and meet your wife’s needs.

Women also want open and honest communication. When you get home from work and she says “how was your day" she wants details! Women want to be asked about their day as well. And when they ask about your day they want actual information, feelings, and opinions. They want to connect to your world. You have to be willing to do something that, at first may be uncomfortable in order to meet some of her basic needs.

Women also need leadership. This doesn’t mean dominating them, you are equals. But they do want their husbands to initiate in certain areas. You don’t have to take the lead on everything. If you make all decisions without consulting her you probably need to dial it back a little. One place I find that men don’t lead enough is the topic of spirituality and prayer. She wants you to be a leader in those things.

”Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Jesus loved the church with a sacrificial love. Jesus is the one who has showed us how to be a good husband. His love was selfless. He loved the Church more than He loved Himself! That’s how men should love their wives by sacrificing to meet their needs. Meeting her needs requires looking outside yourself and identifying the things that are important to her. Sacrifice your own desires or comfort and commit to loving her more than you love yourself. This is love and that is the language they speak! Use these Christian marriage tips to better serve your wife today!

by Gabe Vaughan

Gabe Vaughan is Director Social Media and Design, Shields of Strength