How to know if we have forgiven someone

Forgiving is the best thing we can do for ourself, but if we do it for ourself, it’s not forgiveness it’s selfishness. We should forgive because we are forgiven. It’s not suggesting what someone did was ok, that it didn’t hurt us, that it doesn’t still hurt us, or that it would be ok if they did it again. It’s just a decision to say, despite the hurt you caused me, I still want what is best for you. The story Jesus told of the prodigal son is a beautiful example of love and real forgiveness. Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”